I forgot about this but found out I made a note of it on my phone. A few weeks ago I was at that party that happens at NYC/The World’s Oldest Gay Bar, once a month. It was packed full of all different types of gay people, and it was really swinging. The bar was crowded and the windows were fogged up. I was there with my friend Erik and we came outside for a second so I could smoke a cigarette, and we left through the side exit of the bar. We passed the front of the bar, where the windows were fogged up with condensation, and Erik ran over excitedly and said “Hey, wait a second— I wanna write my name in the fog!” He started tracing an E on the windowpane, but then realized that the condensation was on the other side of the glass, inside the bar.
Some notes on my new show, MAPPLETHORPE May 2-4th at BAX/Brooklyn Arts Exchange. I’m really excited about this project, and I really want people to come see it! If money is the reason you’re not coming, hit me up. If you want to write about the show for a blog/newspaper/outlet, let me know as well and I’ll be happy to arrange comps.
This is the freakiest and most experimental thing I’ve ever made, and I’m excited and scared to show it to y’all.
If you love your friends, drag them. Call them on their shit so they can get it together. Come for their edges and then apply jamaican black castor oil to the bald spots. Read them like a Dr. Seus book. Because you care about them and caring about people means telling them they’re full of bullshit every now and then.
“If I were in the Holocaust I’d definitely die. Because even though I’m Jewish but could pass for non-Jewish, I’m such a total faggot I’d like, insist that they take me along with the other gay people. Even to certain death. I’d be like “Ah ah ah, aren’t you forgetting somebunny?””—
Q:What do you mean when you say, “Love is not about power”?
GLORIA STEINEM:When I was writing Revolution from Within, I wrote a chapter about the difference between romance and love. It dawned on me that love is about wanting what’s best for the other person; it’s two whole people. Romance is about wanting the other person; it’s two fractional people trying to become whole. Nobody else can be the rest of you because you’re unique. Romance is often about power and possession. It may turn into love, but it has different characteristics. Some say it’s the most intense form of curiosity and exploring—which is why it burns out. Someone else cannot be the rest of you.
I sent out a mass e-mail about my shows in April. This is the lead up to my new solo cabaret show MAPPLETHORPE which will be happening May 2-4 at BAX/Brooklyn Arts Exchange. I really want you to come! Check it out, dears.
“The generosity of the vulnerable circuit is a social act: it is the generosity of attention that allows a community of narcissists to see the Other in themselves, to reach toward the gazing pool and feel the Other reaching back. It is a community’s response to the endlessly frustrating distance between the experience and presentation of self, the desperate desire to be seen as something other than alien. It is participating with sincere and generous belief in one another’s fictions. It is allowing oneself to become both Narcissus and his mirror: to see oneself reflected and to let oneself reflect, and to let the Other see themselves in you.”—Generous Narcissism (via fleeten)
For anyone who lives here, New York City can feel like the greatest, most exciting place in the world. When it’s great, there’s truly nothing like it. But when it’s bad, it can be miserable. Sometimes in the midst of struggling just to get by, we can forget what it was, that magic, that made us…
The first run of the Le Tigre EP “From the Desk of Mr Lady” featured Cathy exasperated on the phone, with a sentence that I wrote in her speech bubble. We got a cease and desist letter for it, so she’s gone from most of the EPs in circulation. But sometimes at early Le Tigre shows I would read the text aloud from a slide projected behind us.